[Youtube Review][TED] 10 ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee

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Summary Comments : [TED] 10 ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee

Om**:

1. Don't multitask. (4:27)
2. Don't pontificate. (4:50)
3. Use open ended questions. (6:02)
4. Go with the flow. (6:39)
5. If you don't know, say that you don't know. (7:26)
6. Don't equate your experience with theirs. (7:46)
7. Try not to repeat yourself. (8:26)
8. Stay out of the weeds. (8:46)
9. Listen. (9:08)
10. Be brief. (10:29)

Listen. Be prepared to be amazed! <3

I wanted to summarize because I absolutely love this talk.

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Summary:
1. Don’t multitask - be present with mind.
2. Enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn. Don’t just try to get your point across. Everybody is an expert in some thing.
3. Use open ended questions. Who what when where why how.
4. Go with the flow. Thoughts will come into your mind and go out of your mind. Let them go. Don’t think for two minutes about a clever question to ask.
5. If you don’t know say that you don’t know.
6. Don’t equate your experience with theirs. It is never the same. It’s not about you. Don’t take that moment. Conversations are not A promotional opportunity.
7. Try not to repeat yourself.
8. Stay out of the weeds. People don’t care about the years the names The dates all those details.
9. Listen. Buddha: if your mouth is open you’re not learning. Calvin Coolidge: no man ever listened his way out of a job. We don’t listen with the intent to understand, we listen with the intent to reply.
10. Be brief. A good conversation is like a miniskirt, short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject.

Po*******:

1.      Don’t multi-task – be present in that moment and
don’t think about other things when talking

2.      Don’t pontificate – stating your opinions and
not willing to listen makes you boring and predictable. Enter every
conversation assuming you have something to learn. Everybody is an expert in
something

3.      Use open ended questions – use who, what, where,
when and how. If you put in complicated question like “were you terrified?”,
people will respond with a simple answer like yes or no. Try asking “what was
that like? How did that feel?”, this will get people to think about it

4.      Go with the flow – thoughts will come into your
mind and you need to let it go when conversing with people. If you suddenly get
an idea of something you want to say, forget it and let it go. Because it will you
distract you and you’ll be too preoccupied to listen.

5.      If you don’t know, say that you don’t know. Don’t
pretend

6.      Don’t equate your experience with theirs such as
losing a family member. All experiences are individual, don’t use that opportunity
to prove how amazing you are or how much you suffered. Don’t make it about
yourself. Conversations are not a promotional opportunity

7.      Try not to repeat yourself – it’s condescending
and boring. When you are making a point don’t rephrase over and over

8.      Stay out of the weeds – people don’t care about
details like the names and dates. People care about you, what you’re are like
and what you have in common

9.      Listen – people can get distracted easily. Avg
person talks at 225 words per min but can listen 500 words per min, so our mind
is filling in the rest 275 words. Put in energy and effort to listen.

10.  Be brief – a good conversation is short enough
to retain interest but long enough to cover the subject.



All of this boils down to being interested in other people
I find 2 and 4 very useful.

Ho**********:

"Friendship is the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words but pouring all right out just as they are, chaff & grain together, certain that a faithful friendly hand will take & sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away." George Eliot. AND
I learned these three things from my grandmother--
1. A good listener knows how to ask good questions and reflect empathy.
2. Security lies in having faith in God and His Words, and...
3. ... understanding the definition of happiness---
HAPPINESS IS: someone to love, someone who loves you, something to do, and something to look forward to

Aw******:

For anyone interested, here's the list of her advice :

1. Don’t multitask
2. Don’t pontificate
3. Use open ended questions
4. Go with the flow
5. If you don’t know, say that you don’t know
6. Don’t equate your experience with theirs
7. Don’t repeat yourself
8. Don’t go into the details (names, number, dates…)
9. Listen
10. Be brief

 

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Playtime Comments : [TED] 10 ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee

Cr******:

3:06 “forget all of it that is crap”

Me who just finished taking interpersonal communication: Done

et**:

James 1:19 ESV
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;

Pr********:

8:47 “stay out of the weeds”
Cus y’all knows it’s hard to have a conversation when you are high on marijuana

Iz**:

1:44 lmao i havent texted anyone expect my parents in the last 4 years, but oh wait, im not american...........

Be***:

10:20 "You don't listen with the intent to understand, you listen with the intent to reply"

Br****************:

3:23 is very true for me.

za***:

3:23 One of the pieces of the advice she gave was to not nod your head when listening and I think the guy at the front just saw himself nodding and instantly stopped

Mi***********:

7:46 SAY it louder for the people in the back.

 

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Top Comments : [TED] 10 ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee

Ni*****:

If everyone watched one TED Talks video each day, then the world would be a much better place

An****:

"10 ways to have a better conversation"

Introverts have entered the chat

Te**********:

One should never "talk to" people … but, talk "with" people.

Ka**********:

I feel like something she neglected to touch on, and that teens especially struggle with a lot, is that you should not rely on others opinions or others responses too much. Listen to the right people and avoid being swayed by those who are trying to force a change that's not to improve you . Have the ability to listen well enough to interpret what is worthwhile to take in. Don't push your opinion, but hold by it well enough to discuss it with someone

Ki************:

What did she say? I wasn't listening.

Ry*******:

2016: "at this moment we are more polarized, more divided than at any point in history"
2020: Hold my beer...

Kh***************:

"Don't equate your experience to theirs".

I'm usually good about that, but I think this is the one I struggle the most with.

Et**************:

Her: "we don't know how to communicate anymore because we're so dependant on virtual technology we forget how to talk in real life"

Me: realizes I'm watching an online video about how to have a good conversation

Ky********:

That guy who was laughing the loudest, I think we were separated at birth.

De***:

There was this quote i once read on internet that said, "Don't be Interesting. Be Interested."
and I think this is one of the best RULES to have a Better Conversation.

Sv**************:

Brilliant presenter. I listened without speaking.

fi*********:

were arguing because we have no intelligence. listwn to the crowd here, they laugh at anti vaxxers like kids laugh at the word fart

Re******************:

This must be the BEST TED Talk I have ever heard!

Ma*:

Is it really so difficult to listen? - Introvert person

al*********:

okay but what are the 10 ways to stop being a socially awkward person because that's what's actually stopping me from having good conversations

Cr************:

my grandpa use to say "girl you have one mouth n two ears. use them accordingly."

Ea******:

The real problem is whoever has clicked this video is already willing to talk and listen, but those who are not, they just skipped this video. Those are the ones that need this lesson.

J*:

It’s more interesting to be interested than interesting.

Li**********:

"people listen with the intent to reply, but not with the intent to understand"
-Stephen Hawking

big faxxxxxx

Fy*******:

When talking to a nicely endowed female, might be helpful to raise chin

Fa****************:

Listen to understand, not to reply. That is the most important thing when having conversations with people that many failed to do

Di******:

This woman is an amazing presenter, and her points all stick. You can tell she's the person to ask about how to have a better conversation.

Do********:

Man, Trump and Biden needed to watch this before their debate tonight lol

Fu*******:

The guy laughing so hard is invited to my carne asada

Ja********:

One key point I wished she had spoken on would have to be, "If you disagree with someone, that doesn't mean you have to be unfriendly about it; demand they see your point of view, leave, angrily retort until they acknowledge your right"...it's a pandemic of epic proportions that makes COVID look like peanuts. You don't HAVE to get angry just because someone doesn't share your view point. You don't.
One of my best friends is a diehard atheist who has a Ph.D in bio-statistics, a numbers and empirical data man his whole life. I've been a Christian for years now and he's never once belittled me or made any subtle or direct jabs at my faith and we're still great friends. Choose just to disagree. It's that simple.

Ch************:

Love this, I thought she was gonna say another quote, which I live by "be interested and you will come across as interesting". That quote has really squashed all anxiety I felt when going into a conversation.... Especially around replying when your mind is going say something interesting, say something funny before the person had even finished talking and you've zoned out on half of what they said... If you're interested in what they're saying or yoi try your hardest to be interested and you listen and it will come naturally

Ju****:

I like this !...it's so emotionally said and so warm - yes ! it's important to talk, there is no mental health without talking, we, humans have been created this way, however the trend of non-verbal communication is stronger and stronger, that's not a fairy tale, that's a fact ! - because of globalization, specialization, migrations, a non-verbal communication is more and more dominating and it's becoming something you cannot escape from - let's imagine assembly instructions for a desk made in China in more than 100 languages - rather bad idea - so, instead of 100 sheets of paper we have only one, with pictograms understood for everybody...and usually very easy to understand - that's the future !....another example - an airport in a great city, JFK eg - thousands of passengers from all over the world, speaking more than 100 languages - they need to find restaurant , toilet they need a lot of simple but diversified info..... how to write it in so many languages ? - the solution is simple - again pictograms! - everyone will understand.... there are much more examples, but are you patient enough to read all this ??! :D - why do i say all this ? - because, after all, it is somehow connected with the issue ! ...how ?...maybe i'll tell you, if i have a fancy ! ; )

 

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