[Youtube Review][TED] How the worst moments in our lives make us who we are | Andrew Solomon

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Playtime Comments : [TED] How the worst moments in our lives make us who we are | Andrew Solomon

Be******:

14:33 You can't be fired for being gay now, thanks to the Supreme Court! <3

Ku**********:

04:06 "So, as it turns out, I'm the lucky one.“ (at the end of the rape story) Wow!

 

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Top Comments : [TED] How the worst moments in our lives make us who we are | Andrew Solomon

An****:

"And I was finally unconditionally grateful for a life I'd once have done anything to change"

Du**:

I like how he is very meditative in his thinking.

Li***:

This is the most important talk I have ever listened to, and I have listened to a lot of TED talks. I've nearly cried already like four times. It's so true you can feel the truth in the words that he says. Thank you so much for laying your experience bare. This is real life and love and identity. So good.

ba****:

"That which does not kill us makes us stronger." - Friedrich Nietzsche

St*********:

Oh my gosh- the part about not going to the cafeteria in school- I can't believe what I just heard. I had the same experience.
I never ate lunch once in school from the 7th to the 12th grade. Not once.

Ma***************:

" we cannot bare a pointless torment, but we can endure great pain, if we believe that it's purposeful "

jo************:

''If you banish the dragons, you banish the heros''
-Andrew Solomon (I guess)

That moment in your life when you realise you would change anything so you would not take away that very thing that just change everythings is just so powerfull.

Su**********:

"The pain you feel today, will be the strength you feel later on."

Ca**********:

This completely moved  me. Thank you Andrew Solomon, for making a difference in my life with your video. I will forge meaning, and build identity.

Mi******:

Andrew Solomon you are a beautiful being and spoke so eloquently. Thank you for your insights.

Lu******:

This man is amazing. Much much respect for his wisdom

Sa*****:

Tobey Maguire?

La**********:

Every word he chooses is so purposeful, what a great speaker.

Th*****************:

I was shocked when he said the words "It was my 50th birthday". Holy crap. That man looks absolutely gorgeous for over 50!

To******:

" If I succeed in sheltering them from adversity I will have failed as a parent."

Sa************:

This was a very inspiring speech, thank you.

Mw****:

"We cannot bear a pointless torment : but we can endure great pain if we believe that it's purposeful."

re*****:

I'm wallowing in the beauty of this wonderfully crafted story.

Di****:

'there's always someone willing to confiscate your humanity'

dr********:

I never thought about forging meaning, I just assumed I had to find it.
This is a totally different way of looking at it, and it might change a lot of things in my life.
Thank you!

P*:

Shared an existential moment brilliantly. Hats off to you sir.

Ge*********:

I can relate to Andrew Solomon's childhood survival. He's amazing and articulate.

El***************:

The rough patches I went through have made me a stronger person, and if someone gave me the chance to go back and make them never happen I wouldnt do it, I learned to identify toxic traits in people close to me and cut them off, I learned to stand up for myself, I learned a lot and I never want to forget that pain, not because I'm angry at the people and events that caused it but because that pain made stronger, I wouldnt be who I am today if I hadn't gone through it

Ra**********:

"Some day, being gay will be a simple fact. Free of party hats and blame."

P*:

I nearly applauded myself, and I'm sitting at my computer on my own.  
Excellent talk.

Cr***************:

One of the better TED Talks.  Great speaker, greater message.

Da**************:

This dude kills it. Respect.

Sa****:

Bless his heart, that speech was incredible and his smile in the end after the standing ovation made me so happy <3

Ar**********:

I almost burst into tears when he said his kid's speech. Children are so pure.

Hi************************************:

He has a very particular and discrete way of using inflections, somewhat strange but not in spite of eloquence and profound lucidity. The book he talks of is "Far From The Tree" very highly recommended, is refreshing as well as powerful, moving and full of wonderful insight.

Ch************:

I am straight. But I understand and agree with this. Be who you are, and own it.

Vi*************:

Tears were welling up by the end. This was so powerful.

Gu***************:

I did not expect to get teary after that "If daddy was my age I'd be your friend" moment. Goddamn that was well put

Ay***************:

He is my favorite TED speaker to the date.

Il*********:

“If you were little I would be your friend” I don’t have words

Iv**********:

Wow amazing speach! (this is my storry and im norwegian so sorry for any bad grammar)
I had a rough start to my life with adoption to different families because my dad was a drunk and my mother overdozed on drugs when I was only a baby.. When I finaly got to my new family (I started living with them at the age of 4 and still look at them as my real family) my new mother was hit with brain canser and my new dad went into a depresion... Life was rough and I saw little to no meaning and I messed up in school at so many levels.
I then at the age of 16 talked to my friends brother who was a "shrink" and I told him everything. What he said to me changed my life compleetly! I was expecting him to feel sorry for me, but he said: Thats beautiful! I was shocked and got a bit mad, then he explained it to me: The fact that you have felt so much pain, anger and despair but you are still here today is amazing and a good thing! You have learnd more about pain and feelings then I can ever do in any book!
This changed my life, im not sad because of the bad things, im happy I endured it, becuase it forged me into who I am today! I understand my friends pain better then many and I developed a great understanding of empathy! I now just finished colage and I'm now working with troubled children in kindergarden! I dont think I would have become anything close to this if my life was different. Thanks for reading this and do not feel sorry for me in any way! :) My "new" mom survived the canser, and my dad is no longer depressed!

Sa*********:

something about this man is kind of celestial. As if he were a member of a more gentle, developed race. His voice, the way he moves, how he lifts his beautyful eyes, and of course the truth in his words. its silly but he somehow remainded me a little bit of Mr.Spock. obviously he would be quite a different Mr.Spock, because he would embrace his humanhalf and his non-humanhalf would be based on love and wisdom instead of pure logic, but anyway there was a moment in his speach when he finally said the word:"enterprise",and i just cought my self thinking: dont leave us behind!

ca**********:

As an adult who grew against opression, trauma, neglect, and hardship you must learn to adapt and carry on, however when you become parent, one of a young child nothing can prepare you for what you will experience. You spent your life absorbed in the your negative or dark reality and survival was your goal, so finding yourself now a parent you are about to be shaken by a new truth.
this child loves you unconditionally, nothing you do or say, no home or car, no promotion or pinkslip has any effect. to be loved by your child in such a pure way, where this little being thinks that you as you are now, are perfect. Through their eyes u are not "just enough" but rather you shine as a bright and warm as the sun above their heads, stand as tall a tree and still so gracefully through life, they see their mentor, their friend, their genius who knows all the answers to lifes woes, the person they aspire to be just like, and to make you proud is a dream they hold deep within their hearts..your are their hero whom they love you with all of of their being and for the parent who experienced trauma this can be momentarily crippling. For the first time ever you have experience genuine love, the reassurance and acceptance that had been privously denyed, and like that the damn you spent your entire life building to hold hurt within and to deflect pain from outside, is destroyed. your dam that held all your tears guilt lonilness and shame suddenly is freeflowing in mad rushing currents and waves through out your body and soul. the power of your young child telling you clearly that you are everything they love, just the way you are now, can in a instant mend a lifetime of not feeling accepted.
in that moment you belong. in that moment you are home and that child causes swells of love of delight, excitement, inspiration motivational insight. you found home and a purpose as well and its to be the person they know you to be.

when he told of his sons birthday toast, his voice choked up, eyes watered and i know his chest felt this hard pang because i felt it too. i cried a tear in the moment overwhelmed with absolute gratitude for my life and my own son who sends such joy and affection i feel as tho my heart my explode, and stops me dead in my tracks physical unable to continue in that instant . that surge of emotion is nore powerful than any drug and to articulate how extremly overwhelming it is takes a better writer not working from a broken screen phone.

he teared up remembering that story and the audience was moved, because we all want to be accepted and loved no matter how life changes and he finally got the reassurance his previous life had be lacking.
just beautiful

follow this man the best i can though not nearly enough to satisfy
He is such a powerful presenter and his presence just takes over whatever room he enters.
What a wonderful man, what wonderful work :)

 

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