[Youtube Review][TEDx Talks] What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York | TEDxUniversityofNevada

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Playtime Comments : [TEDx Talks] What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York | TEDxUniversityofNevada

Pr*********:

I had my son when I was 18. His mom and I were together for a year after he was born. Things didnt workout. She was abusive. She tried to keep him away from me. I constantly visited but she refuses to open the door everytime.

I fought and represented myself in court for 3 years. I saved every receipt, photos, school awards, etc. At first, I was only able to see him on Every other Sundays. Then it turned to every other weekend where he would sleep over. Then I requested for more time. It became every other weekend and every other Tuesday and Friday.

The last mediation on May 29, 2013, I requested for every other weekend, monday, Wednesday and Friday. It was approved.

From there she started to slowly fade away. She wouldnt show up for the exchange. Got plenty of notes from police officers for a no show. Total neglect.

So I took matters into my own. Enrolled him in schools and other activites while I went to work. She would pick him up here and there but there was a time where she forgot to pick him up from school. They called me at 7:00 pm. He was 4 years old at this time. She didn’t reach out for a year.

He’s basically lived with me since then. I am 29 now and he’s 11.

For any fathers going through something similar,

Your child deserves to have a good father.
Don’t stop fighting.
Whatever it takes.

Ad********:

13:20 Me waiting for them to show the audience be like:

Na********:

4:19 hit me a little too hard

Mi**********:

Lol I'm only 3:51 mins in and I'm already emotional, mean while my 3 yr old is hiding behind her recliner sneak pooping ahhh stay at home dad is the best job!!!

Je**********:

I love this presentation, but man the part at 5:38 is not fun for people without dads

 

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Top Comments : [TEDx Talks] What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York | TEDxUniversityofNevada

Se*********:

This made me feel weird to have someone giving a f about my feelings.

Mr************:

Haven't had contact with my daughter in over 10 years now, even after winning 16 court cases.

An idea for you, dad who doesn't have contact with your kid: register your kid's full name as a domain. Put up a simple wordpress blog website and write to your son or daughter.

Keep it positive, don't mention your ex or any negativity, positive stories only!

That way, what ever happens, he/she will at some point read your stories and make up their own mind about what has happened.

Stay strong, dad's!
Our kids need us, and they need us strong

Ja***********:

AS A FATHERS MYSELF, FROM EXPERIENCE, THE MOTHER OF MY KIDS, JEALOUSY PLAY APART IN MY KIDS RELATIONSHIP WITH ME! I STEP BACK AND WATCH HOW IMATURE HER MOTHER WAS JEALOUS OF HER KIDS RELATIONSHIP WITH ME!

Ti*************:

I spent a lot of time in court and thousands of dollars trying to get the courts to make the mother comply with custody orders. My every other weekend was a battle to see my children. As a result none of the children, adults now, believe that I never cared about them. Thanks for your support

Se***********:

This is awesome! I really wish it was true for every father... Some fathers make conscious decisions to not be there... Would be awesome if all adults could be actual adults when it came to things related to children!

au**************:

as a father who fought for his own rights for over 3 years i salute this lady. spread your wonderful message, you rule.

ii*********:

The Reason:
NO FAULT STATE, DIVORCE Tax... Everyone except the dad is making $$$$

Es*****:

Can’t believe people disliked this video...somebody is bitter

Sh*****:

It's says a lot that just about the only people who can advocate for men & be taken seriously are women

Da*********:

5 thousand social justice warriors hated this video

Ra************:

when i was 2 my father went to prisson, so after prisson we (me and my sister) would ocationaly see him when we wanted to go to a zoo or somthing like that.( as my mom was to poor) when i was about 8 or 9 i did get like a step-dad but it never felt like i had a dad.

idk, just wanted to share.

Ji**********:

"Close your eyes. Picture your father." Oh i see this is my stop.

Sp****************:

She looks the part. I bet this lawyer rips the opposition apart.

Wi****:

I'm really curious about the crowd reactions beyond the heard applause.
That stuff was so incredibly powerful and touching, there must have been more than a few no longer dry eyes.

I know I almost teared up and I was and am fortunate enough to not be personally affected by any of these issues.

Ma**:

The justice system is perversely aligned in women’s favor.

Er***:

Maybe if society as a whole stopped treating fathers like they are dispensable, we could see even a slight decrease in men that abandon their children. My dad and grandpa were two of the best people I have ever met and I absolutely needed them while I was growing up and I'm grateful every day they were there every single day. Any mother that would try and deny their child additional love and support from a father that wants to be in their child's life is pathetic. Fathers are just as important as mothers.

Wa*************:

Thank you for this talk.. I learned this from my husband and watching how much he loves his kids and how his ex wife abuses this fact. It is terrible that as a society we would rather leave a child with a mother that doesn't deserve her children than place them with a father who would go to the ends of the earth for them. You are so right and we need to share this message...

Gr************:

"Feminists" heard the word men's right: and I took that personally.

Ru********:

I grew up with my father in and out of life, and what she's saying is very true.

in***********:

My father worked up to 80 hours a week to make sure me and my brothers had what we needed. But if we needed HIM, he was always there. Was? I am 43yo and if I need my father, he is here for me and my brothers.

Ai********:

I remember having my dad deployed for 6 years of my childhood. Those were the hardest years of my life. And I got to get him back. Some never do. Advancing and advocating for women should not be about degrading and pushing away men.

Be**********:

As a father that rarely gets to see his daughter, I appreciate this Tedx Talk.

Fr*********:

This woman is a treasure. My divorce attorney was a woman... No one represents men better than a woman who loves her father. God bless them all,

Nu*******:

The sad thing is, it’s usually the mother who doesn’t let the father see the child because SHE doesn’t like him. They will also tell their kids how horrible he is without the dad there to prove her wrong. It really sucks.

Edit: What I posted was one sided, it should be something that goes for everyone. The whole bad mouthing of the other parent is wrong in general. I’m sorry I only said that mother’s do this when in fact it happens to mothers as well. I was going on the bases that mothers are usually the ones who get primary custody and based my opinion on that. Sorry if I came off a little one sided.

Si********:

My dad threw me in the lake when I was like 5-6....I learned how to swim that day

Fa***********:

I live with my mom since I've had memory, but I'm thankful I can see my dad without problems. And I recognize I have the luck to be able to do so, apart from having the luck of having good parents. I can tell you that even when my mom raised me, my dad is a huge support figure who has been an example for me in many ways.

So if you're a dad fighting over custody, then keep fighting, a kid will appreciate a lot having his father present in his life.

Ma********:

My dad taught me what it is to be a man and I'll be eternally grateful for that.

Hi**********:

I can still remember when I was 6 years old and my dad bought me my fist gun. It was a 22 cal cricket gun and I fell in love with it. I also had some shotguns growing up too. He taught me how to hunt and fish and he taught me how to have a good work ethic. He taught me how to exercise, just as he taught me to ride a bike. He taught me how to cuss and to not talk like that in front of my mom. He taught me how to drive a car when I was almost 16 and he taught me how to talk to women. I wouldn’t be the man I am today if it wasn’t for him. Honestly I don’t think I’d still be alive at all if it wasn’t for him.

Ki***********:

Man my childhood was great! what I loved about my dad was everytime he came home from work he would put my put on top of his feet and we would dance around the house! I love my Papi for sure

Wr******:

I raised my daughter alone from age 4 to age 18 I didn’t receive child support and the state never attempted to enforce it. They only made excuses... her mother was no help whatsoever ...
my daughter turned out great. Love her to pieces!!!

Ad**************:

Haven't seen my kids in almost a year, their mother used covid 19 as an excuse to keep me away from them

en**:

As a divorced father who had his two daughters taken to a city 1000 km away, I cried watching this.

Sm*******:

My mom was abusive, for 15 years no one believed me. DSS didn’t pay attention. My father did want me, in fact when I was 10 he got my brother who was 15. I was stuck with my mom because it was believed I needed a mother’s touch and love. During that 5 year I went to a mental hospital twice, three of my grandparents died, my uncle died and my mothers abuse got worse. I have three scars that are from my mother, one on my wrist I see EVERY DAY. DSS only believed me one I had a psychotic break in a police station. My mom was right outside the door laughing and gossiping. I have been diagnosed with severe PTSD. When I went to my dads, I no longer need everyday medication, I was more social and I didn’t have to be afraid of my mother every second. My mother got away with this for 15 years with it because she was so good at the image. My Dad tried but no one cared until I was in mental hospitals crying for over 5 hours begging them to not send me home and begging for my dad. Dads are extremely important without my Dads support I would not be here. Don’t always believe the mother most the time they are the most abusive. Mine was and I sometimes I still wake up crying in fear that she will punish me for not being a good daughter

Edit: I wanted to say thank you for all over your sweet and caring comments. I didn’t want sympathy however I just wanted to spread the importance of people having a father and how mothers can be horrible with children. To update about how I’m doing I’m okay. I’m a lot better than I was with my mother. I still have my struggles but I’m grateful for them due to them helping me understand things better.

Ke**:

When my ex and I split up, we set up 50/50 custody, neither play child support we just work together to get the kids what they need, i call him everyday to let him know how their school day was when its not his day and my new husband and i bought the house 5 door down from him. We have suppers together and sit together during school functions. Our school has told us they have never seen co parents that handle the situation as well as we do. We didnt work together as a couple but we are great co parents and our kids come first.

Th**************:

While I absolutely understand that this is a real issue and it breaks my heart reading the comments, my family must have a pretty strange case because for over 5 years me, my mom and my two siblings have been trying to get away from my father. He is emotionally and mentally abusive and constantly harasses our family- I have lasting mental and emotional issues watching my dad become an entirely different person and become an abuser that impacts my life daily despite being in a different state. The only reason we were able to get away from him is because he left to go to another state with his new wife (who is a felon, btw). The courts have continued to give him visitation rights whenever he wants for my youngest sibling despite him taking a psychological evaluation that deemed him unsafe and with multiple mental disorders (depression, anxiety, we tried to do counseling together and he berated me for over an hour each week and it was later determined in this evaluation that my dad was unfit to even try counseling because he would never see himself as wrong). My dad has never payed child support and was arrested multiple times because of it and my grandparents bailed him out each time, and yet the courts won't stop making my family spend thousands of dollars in legal fees to continue the same battle that started 5 years ago. Somehow the court system likes to take children away from good fathers and make other kids stay with their abusive ones. I was only able to get out because I turned 18 during this time, and that shouldn't have been the case. The courts didn't believe our counselors and didn't believe our statements but they'd let the man who made up laws to avoid paying child support (that he believed) and called me and my siblings "property," visitation and parental rights. I'm so sorry to any father that has truly loved their child and has had to fight tooth and nail for their kid, because I know what that's like. I just wish the family court system would quit doing the opposite of what it should be doing and start actually caring about families....

 

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