[Youtube Review][TED] The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood

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Summary Comments : [TED] The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood

Br****************:

1. Open Communication
2. Mutual Respect
3. Kindness
4. Patience
we can practice all of these things

jc******:

5 markers of Unhealthy love
1. Intensity 3:20
2. Isolation 4:45
3. Extreme jealousy 6:07
4. Belittling 7:04
5. Volatility 8:04

Se*******:

Signs of Unhealthy Relationship:
1. Intensity
2. Isolation
3. Jealousy
4. Belittling
5. Volatility

Ways to do Relationship Better:
1. Open Communication
2. Mutual Respect
3. Kindness
4. Patience

Cn******:

Five makers of unhealthy love
1. Intensity (suffocating, showing up everywhere, texting or calling a lot)
2. Isolation (no friends day, doubt of pre-relationship life)
3. Extreme jealousy (following you everywhere, every time, online and off)
4. Belittling (break you down, shut you down)
5. Volatility (frequent breakups and makeups, hateful and hurtful comments)

Do your part every day to do relationships better:
- Open communication
- Mutual respect
- Kindness
- Patience

 

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Playtime Comments : [TED] The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood

Bi***********:

4:20 "It's important to remember that it's not how a relationship starts that matters, it's how it evolves."

An*********:

Solución para tener un amor saludable:
- Comunicación Abierta
- Respeto Mutuo
- Amabilidad
- Paciencia


"Todas estas cosas se pueden practicar todos los días" 10:05

Mi***************:

0:33 Love (taught to love?)
1:09 Unhealthy behaviors
3:24 Blobs 4:48, 6:12, 7:04
Isolation/Seclusion
Jealousy, Possessiveness, Mistrust


8:03
10:20 (We are imperfect beings) (Pause. Breathe)

Da**************:

That is if they are really 5:24. My experiance is that all first young "love" relationships (my case 4 sure) are mirror of everything (un)healthy with your relatings to others previously learned. And where did you learn it? With your primary relations, your family, your parents. In other cases, this continues to happen if you dont figure out the toxicity (of primary relations) , like my sister that had many boyfriends but end up marrying the person copy pased i.e completaly the same personality (and problems) as her first "love", from wich she run in terror screaming how toxic it is. Now she just getting fat.. so if your child is experiancing 'young love' with these signs, first ask yourself about the relationship you teached them to have with you and the rest of the world, presuming you want to help them.

Be***********:

11:23 "I want all of my kids to understand what the bar should be for how they're treated and to have a language and a voice to use when that bar is not met versus just accepting it."

 

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Top Comments : [TED] The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood

Da***:

healthy love is SO hard to find.

Li**********:

A healthy and deep love gives you strength. Unhealthy love weakens you. Thanks TED, videos like these have been an inspiration to start my own personal development channel <3

lr****:

“Time of break up can be a real trigger for violence”... when we advice our friend to leave an abusive relationship, its not always the best advice. Contact an expert to help avoid violence and how to leave safely..

Je*********:

I’ve seen the toxic relationships in my life. Mostly family. I practice the same stuff I wish you saw that for some environments it doesn’t matter what you say. Or what you do. You eventually become numb, stop feeling anything since nobody really cares. Some people out there don’t have anyone, or anything to go to at the end of the day to help them. Or encourage them.

Un*************:

Today I learned - I have habits that is promoting unhealthy love.

Something that didn’t seem obvious before but obvious now. Im sorry Madeline

me**:

Intensity
Isolation
Extreme jealousy
Belittling
Volatility

Mi*************:

I wonder how many people and couples in the audience felt personally attacked, lmao. This was a great talk with lots of truth, and I hope I can start to notice when I’m displaying these toxic traits in my own relationship.

Ra********:

Hard to believe that I didn’t recognize abuse in my own relationship. Thankful to have survived but my life will never be the same. I am wiser and way more cautious.

Da*******:

I was being a toxic person for my ex, I cant believe I did all of that, the fact is making me sad rn, that is why I listen more about love and how to love someone in a right way.

su****************:

My god. This is such an eye opener.

My***********:

I've been abused all of my life...and have been the abuser in the past at times. It's all I knew. Now I recognize what unhealthy love looks like. It's still a struggle for me, however, to set boundaries when I see red flags because most of my abusers used gaslighting as a way to make me think the mistreatment was all in my head.

Er**********:

Every relationship completely depends on honesty. And I mean in the Shakespearean sense: this above all else, to thine own self be true: since a life of veracity begins at home. Liars are pathologically disconnected from reality and healthy relationships with them are impossible. Also, remember that being in love doesn't mean loving, and that love should be an active quality. And desperate love is a very selfish thing.

Of***********:

As a 13 year old kid, I understand the woman was saying but the important part is RESPECT others that you LOVED!

sp**********:

Very important topic for this time and well expressed. A relationship can either make u or break u

Ro*******:

The least healthy relationship I have right now is with my nana. I love her, but I'm a gay Christian and she doesn't believe I'm a "real Christian". I can't go over to her house anymore without fear that she'll bring it up, it wears on me a lot.

Em*:

it's important to look for these signs not just in the other person but also in yourself.

Rh**************:

Finally. People are realizing that love is a skill we can all learn !!!

Si*****:

Wow my ex hit all 5 markers. Im so grateful it ended finally

El***********:

I love my other half so much. but my anxiety gets so bad and it gets in the way. I create problems in my head with the relationship even if everything is fine just because I'm so scared of something in my life working out so i sabotage it myself because I'm not used to peace in relationships. And my family never showed me what love was supposed to be like so it's hard to navigate especially at 16. In my head, i'm used to realtionships involving lots of horrible fights and screaming and violence. And it's so hard to just trust that love can really be a beautiful, peaceful thing if i let it be

Am*********:

Thank you for confirming that I have finally found healthy love. On both ends. We aren’t perfect, but we work on things!

Sl********:

Be true to your feelings when you feel uncomfortable.

Sw***********:

The ability to love better is a skill we can all improve upon !

Re******:

I can feel the anxiety in her voice... it is palpable... Yet, she got up there and did a phenomenal job!! The message is profound, and something not easy for me to watch. I have always been the "I love you" guy, but my actions often did not back up my words. Now, I am 40 and essentially all alone on this spinning ball of cosmic dust.

Sorry for the rant.

Th*****************:

'The ability to love better is a skill we can improve on over time' .....great news

Mi*******:

I really needed this, it’s saved my relationship about a guy that’s so good.. and sometimes when you’re with someone for so long. We were just raised up both unhealthy in general. Thank you.

ST**************************:

Quite an interesting observation and nice talk...like always in TED

Ka***********:

I feel like I have this in myself. How on earth do I change and get help?

Li**:

This talk impacted me so much and opened my eyes to a lot, I’m really sad I ended the relationship but after watching this it validates that it was the right choice

Ke*********:

Healthy love doesn’t even really feel like love it just feels like two (or more) people that know what they’re doing in live, and don’t have much problems or things to complain about so they are just chilling in a calm and open space and it feels like they are together by choice rather than being stuck together. Unhealthy love has that needy clingy, intense, passionate, roller coaster, emotional ups and downs type of energy that makes u feel like u need that person and your life will go into flames without them.

Em*********:

I wish i saw this video earlier... i just left my toxic and abusive relationship of 3 years. It was really hard...really hurtful and really scary. It starts subtle, you know, small things like wanting to know where you are, or what i called cute jealously where i found it cute when he would be jealous when boys would try and talk to me and all, or how much time he wanted to spend with me... but it all got so suffocating. Wanting to know where i was and who i was with ALL the time, got so frustrating, his jealousy would turn into hateful words and maybe a few hits. His wanting to spend time with me all the time, isolated me from my friends and family and everyone was worried...but me. I saw so many signs, red flags but i chose to ignore it. Because maybe, he would change or this is how love is meant to be because he loved me so much. But i was wrong, he didnt love me. He possessed over me and thats not love. Im glad i left, because now I realize love is not suffocating, demanding, abusive, rude, caging. Its all about being who you are, with the right person and still getting to do what you love and having support to do whatever you like and not getting pushed down by it because of your partners insecurities. To anyone going through a toxic relationship, im so sorry you dont deserve this, but you deserve to put yourself first and leave

An*********:

Intensity: exciting to overwhelming and suffocating, requests not respected
Isolation: pulling you away from friends and family/support system, talks smack about family- sewing seeds of doubt vs healthy love, spending time together and maintaining independence and spending time with friends and family like before the relationship
Jealousy: need to know where you are all the time, accusations of flirting and cheating, won’t listen when you tell them there’s nothing to worry about. Threatening, desperate and angry edge to the jealousy
Belittling: words used as weapons, make fun of you in a way that hurts, then shoot you down for overreacting vs words building you up instead of breaking you down
Volatility: frequent breakups and makeups, extreme highs and lows, saying hurtful things then taking it back filled with promises

 

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